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Writing your own wedding vows is a personal and touching wedding tradition that I’ve been happy to see grow in popularity over the years – some of the most beautiful weddings I’ve helped plan include personal vows.

But as a wedding planner, I’ve worked with countless brides and grooms – and I know that there’s a lot of pressure to write the perfect vow, that’s funny, heartfelt and thoughtful all at the same time.

So I enlisted comedian and entrepreneur Geoff Wolliner of Winning Wit to share his tips on how to write funny wedding vows (hint: “humour from the heart” is very important!). Keep reading to find out more.

How to Write Funny Wedding Vows

by Geoff Woliner

Searching the internet high and low, one can find a ton of information on how to write great wedding vows. The advice generally ranges from, “Speak from the heart” to “Look into his/her eyes” to “Try not to faint”. And the advice is sound. Your wedding vows are some of the most important and memorable moments of the big day, and you want to make them great. But what if you also want to make them funny? What then?

Making people laugh is a tricky thing under normal circumstances. What if someone gets offended? What if the joke falls flat and draws blank stares from your family, friends and wedding crashers? During your vows, the proposition is even more daunting…”How can I strike the right note that will have them laughing, but also not take away from the sincerity of the moment?”.

That’s where the principle of “humor from the heart” comes in.

Humor from the heart is a way of telling a story that radiates authenticity, connects with your spouse and audience on an emotional level, and engages them in the story of you.

Here’s the process to following this principle:

1) Seclude yourself and start writing

Go somewhere devoid of all distractions, and start writing down the chronology of your relationship, from your first meeting to the present day. Make notes of the highs and lows, the laughter and the tears, and write them all down.

2) Select a highlight reel

Now that you’ve compiled your memories, select the ones you want to highlight most. That two-week hiking expedition in the Andes. Your first hockey game together. Last Thanksgiving when Aunt Mary overcooked the roast and everyone ended up ordering pizza. Find the stories that jump out at you the most. Any one of these memories can be turned into a humorous anecdote, even the serious ones. “And you were there with me every day in the hospital when I had pneumonia. The food was so bad I actually missed your cooking!”

3) Organize the highlights into one story

The power of storytelling is the ability to bring events to life and take people on a journey with you. Start from the beginning, i.e., “I knew you were the one when I first saw you at that McDonalds a block from campus. Any man who looked that good with a mouthful of chicken nuggets at 3 a.m. was the man for me”, continue with anecdotes, i.e. “You’ve always been there for me through thick and thin. When I lost my first job, and when I lost my first remote” and finish with the present, “And here we are now, about to share everything together. Except the TV during the Dancing With the Stars finale. I will not be sharing that!”

4) Finish with genuine emotion

Vows are unlike all other presentations, and in this case, you want to finish on a serious, heartfelt note after the final joke. “And despite your crazy driving, loud snoring and questionable flannel shirt collection, I love you more than anything in the world. You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I’m thankful every day for the blessing of having you in my life.” This approach will have maximum impact because it will have the audience in a place of joy from laughing, and fill that joy with the raw, powerful love that brought you all there in

Now that we have the structure in place, here are some tips to follow to get the most out of your vows.

Delivering funny wedding vows will add a dimension to your wedding that will be unexpected, highly enjoyable for your guests, and will create a special moment that will be yours and your spouse’s forever. It shows a playful side that will remind you both why you’re together in the first place. A couple that laughs together, stays together.


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Geoff Woliner, Stand-Up NY’s “Funniest Person from Queens”, is the founder of “Winning Wit“, a service that helps people write and deliver the funniest speeches of their lives. If your wedding party would like a hand writing and delivering their own funny speeches, contact